Monday 20 June 2011

Welcome my guest Margie McKinnon From International Organization The Lamplighters

Margie Mckinnon

The Lamplighters
An International Movement For Incest And Child Sexual Abuse Recovery

The Lamplighters is an international movement for recovery of incest and childhood sexual abuse that currently has 74 chapters in fourteen countries. Our website is at

We are looking for people to start a chapter in their area. It is so easy. All you need is you and one other person sharing your stories and talking about how you are dealing with them. The information is on our website under Start A Group. There is a link that will take you to the Lamplighter Facilitator Guide.

If you are interested please contact Margie McKinnon at

Sunday 12 June 2011

Guest Post From Our Friend And Supporter At Stop Child Abuse


@helpspreadthis US If You Care Enough, You Can Change The World. Come Help Us!!

If You Care Enough, You Can Change The World.

This will be short. I am a father of 2 young children. I came from a family of 6 kids. Very loving naive, normal childhood. I was driven to do something after the news came out about the two children mentioned in my petition.

My heart had previously felt such pain every time before I heard a horrific story of child abuse. I can't fathom what a child must go through. I actually unknowingly drove by the vehicle on the highway the morning the police found these children (before the news broke) I didn't sleep that night. I decided then I would help abused children escape the their own nightmare. The petition is a start. I won't give up until something changes for the better.

Saturday 4 June 2011

I would like you to meet "@24KAuGuy ( not my real name ) a special guest

I have been hearing one of the many whispers on Twitter, he is known as @24KAuGuy. Not his real name of course but it is what we know him by. There are a lot of what I call The Whisperers on twitter each of us breaking the silence about Child Abuse but for some unknown reason I am drawn to his tweets. His tweets ( notes of comment ) make everyone sit up and listen. Maybe its because I recognize his pain as I now recognize my children's pain. He may be just one voice on twitter but there are many whisperers behind him and we make one loud voice ! @24KAuGuy is not ready to blog yet but has allowed me to publish some of his twitter comments.

Not my real name

Not my real name

Childhood sexual abuse survivor. Slowly realizing that I no longer have to fight this battle alone. I am finding my voice and speaking for the boy who couldn't.

All I have to give the world is my truth....
By the time I was 7 I knew my place in the world was to be used...hell i think I knew that before I could even talk...

: children are only at risk of by strangers

Friday 3 June 2011




I see you a small square of blue
in the corner of my eye blended
The warmth of your concern seeped into me
finding some pores not quite clogged

Mingling with my sadness, a strange cocktail
I drank it down like Alice
I hated it, and I remembered
daddy had a blue eye too

Like a piece of ocean washed glass
it glinted from the horizon

Mournfully staring, emptied of memory
Azure blue butterflies are better
they live and they die in the sun.
Caressing tall soft grasses, constantly
moving, they can never settle
never to belong, refusing to love

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Tuesday 31 May 2011


Privileged to introduce The Ghost With The Most, Father, Husband, Survivor And Advocate In The Fight Against Abuse. Oh and not to forget, one of  the Heroes.

About Me

Odd One United States
I'm just your average guy next door with a wife and kids. On the surface, anyway. No, I'm not some mutated being with superpowers, but I do have a chance to make a difference in people's live

 Welcome To The Age Of Entitlement
It's been a while since I blogged, and even though I had every intention of writing sooner, it's good that I didn't.

Why? Because there comes a time in a survivor's journey when we realize it's time to let go. That can be especially hard for those of us who have been victimized severely and repeatedly. After having fear, sadness and anger pent up for so long, some of us begin to believe we are entitled to live life that way. I admit that I fell into this mode of thought...more like obsession. The idea that I was right to be pissed as hell and unleash my pain on the people who reminded me of my perpetrators took over, blinding me to the fact that I was becoming cold to the people I love and care for. This became clear to me recently when I spoke out publicly against my own coworkers, who had set off a bad reaction for me by using a plastic wrap doll for a prom decoration that represented a prostitute passed out on a toilet. The only thing that makes my anger boil over more than my own pain is that of women and girls. I can be very protective of females who are in danger, so the sight of this "joke" as it was called, brought out my rage over all the girls and women who fall victim to traffickers, pimps, johns and perverts in general. A story that was published by our local newspaper has polarized our community due to my flashback. And even after I received notice that I was being furloughed, it is still hard for me to let go of the idea that I was entitled to give my fury a voice.

 So, at what point does one distinguish between a sense of duty and selfish entitlement? The answer is right there in the question. Duty has little if nothing to do with the self. It is placing the best interest of others first.
Entitlement is selfishness on steroids. I could very well have handled that doll situation differently and created an opportunity for all to grow in understanding of the suffering of trafficking and prostitution victims.

Things happen for a reason, and lessons we learn can be painful, and not just for ourselves. I've been approached by quite a few people who admire my stand for what I feel is wrong and right. At the same time, my wife is concerned about how we as a family will be treated by the community at large in the future.

I can only pray that I have stirred a change of consciousness that might guide everyone forward with greater care for those of us whom society deems "cheap whores." Behind every sex worker or porn star is someone who made us feel like we had no other purpose than to provide pleasure for men or women who use, abuse and violate every fiber of our beings.

It is my duty to tell other survivors that we have been lied to all our lives. The truth shall set us free.